It was a Friday night at the end of a long and hard week. I stood over the kitchen sink, trying not to burst into tears or overthink. But no matter how many deep breaths I took, I couldn’t shake the heavy weight. I wanted to scream into a pillow or run until I reached a deserted place.
I closed my eyes and whispered, “Jesus help. Today wasn’t just hard. Today was blisteringly frustrating. Bewildering. Energy sapping. Rage inducing. I am exhausted mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually and relationally. Please. Help.”
If any of this resonates with you in week or season you’re in right now, or you find yourself having a hard day later down the road, I hope the reminders He gave me will minister to your soul. Here’s what He said.
#1 Sometimes life feels hard. That’s OK.
It’s true, sometimes there is just no sugar coating it. But you can still look for the good in the hard. As I sensed the Lord encouraging me to look for the good, glimpses of beauty came to my remembrance.
Did my child whine all day and did work blow up in my face? Yes. Did several things get broken in my house and did I spend a large portion of the day cleaning up glass and other debris? Yes. Did my husband and I not communicate as lovingly and as well as we usually do? Yes. Did I not have a moment to myself? Yes. But then there was the moment my son ask me to hold him. The moment he gobbled up the soba noodles I made us for dinner with a half smile. The moment my dog nuzzled me with delight as I massaged his ears.
There was beauty and good in the hard. Maybe it didn’t outweigh the number of minutes of what felt really difficult, but it was there. Focusing on those moments and letting the rest fall to the wayside really helped put some things into perspective.
#2 Give yourself grace.
So you didn’t handle everything perfectly 100% of the time. It’s OK to acknowledge where you need to grow and improve, but you don’t need to beat yourself up about those things. Honestly, sometimes as women of faith, we extend more compassion to others than we do to ourselves.
God isn’t sitting on His throne wagging His finger at us saying “Shame on you, you should know better,” when we mess up. Yes, there is a place for correction and repentance, but also, if you’re yielded to and pursuing Jesus, cut yourself some slack. Sometimes, you’re going to mess up even when you’re trying to be the person you know God created you to be. Remember:
There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit. For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus has made me free from the law of sin and death. -Romans 8:1-2 NKJVRead More